DIY PILLOW SPRAY FOR A RESTFUL NIGHT’S SLEEP

If you’re having trouble getting a good night’s sleep, a DIY pillow spray might be just what you need. This simple homemade sleep spray features three soothing lavender essential oil blends designed to encourage relaxation and help you drift into a deep, restful slumber.

Winding down after a stressful day can feel impossible. Despite eating well, exercising, and taking care of ourselves, sleep is often the hardest part of maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

And in today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to see why!

Creating a calming bedroom sanctuary is more important than ever for restful sleep. Along with healthy sleep habits, natural remedies like aromatherapy can help set the stage for a peaceful slumber.

This is where a soothing essential oil pillow spray for beauty sleep comes in. This DIY pillow spray recipe is a simple way to add a calming fragrance to your bedding, encouraging relaxation and helping you drift off into a deep sleep.

Whether you have essential oils or not, this recipe includes options for both, as well as an alcohol-free version. Whatever supplies you have on hand, you’ll be able to create your own pillow mist.

For the ultimate wind-down, try pairing this spray with a relaxing lavender shower steamer during your bedtime routine. To take it even further, apply a homemade magnesium lotion once you’re tucked into bed for extra relaxation!

How this pillow spray helps for sleep

As we explored in our post on DIY aromatherapy perfume, the scents of certain essential oils have the ability to soothe the mind and body. If sleep is a struggle for you, essential oils can be a powerful addition to your nighttime routine.

And what better place to experience their calming effects than right beside your head, on your pillow?

It’s not recommended to apply essential oils directly to your pillow, as they can be too concentrated. However, by making your own DIY sleep spray, you can safely dilute the oils for proper use.

Plus, it’s a fantastic way to enjoy the benefits of essential oils without the need for a diffuser!

Lavender essential oil for sleep

Below, I’ve shared 3 calming essential oil blends for your pillow spray, each featuring Bulgarian lavender oil.

Why choose lavender for your sleep spray? Lavender is one of the most renowned and well-researched essential oils for promoting rest and reducing stress. Numerous studies have highlighted lavender oil’s powerful sedative, anxiety-relieving, and calming properties, making it a go-to choice for improving sleep through aromatherapy.

Lavender’s sleep-enhancing benefits are threefold. First, as a sedative, lavender oil can help you feel sleepy. Second, its anxiolytic properties can ease the anxiety that might be keeping you awake.

Not only can lavender essential oil help you fall asleep faster, but it can also improve the quality of your sleep. Research has shown that lavender’s soothing fragrance enhances sleep quality and promotes deeper rest.3,1

However, it’s important to note that this effect is even stronger when combined with good sleep hygiene. So, be sure to incorporate healthy habits into your nighttime routine, like limiting blue light exposure before bed.

Engaging in relaxing activities is also key. One calming ritual you can try? Gently massaging your face with a homemade lavender cleansing balm. While you’re at it, check out 5 tips to protect yourself from blue light!

DIY sleep spray ingredients

While there are plenty of store-bought pillow sprays available, there’s really no need to buy one when making your own at home is so simple.

To create your DIY pillow spray, all you need is a liquid base like vodka or witch hazel, a natural emulsifier (as shown below), and your favorite essential oils (or a hydrosol). You’ll also need a glass spray bottle to store and dispense your homemade spray.

VODKA, ALCOHOL, OR WITCH HAZEL

For the longest shelf life, I recommend using vodka or high-proof alcohol, as it helps prevent bacterial growth. However, if you prefer a version without alcohol, you can use witch hazel, as long as it contains a preservative to keep it fresh.

Tip: You can use any leftover alcohol or witch hazel to create your own DIY perfume.

NATURAL EMULSIFIER

A natural emulsifier is key for dispersing the essential oils in your pillow spray. Since essential oils don’t mix with water, the oils would simply float on top without an emulsifier. This is problematic because spray nozzles dispense from the bottom, not the top!

There are various natural emulsifiers and solubilizers you can use for this recipe. I used Capryl/Caprylyl Glucoside from my Simply Earth essential oil box, which comes in a convenient dropper bottle for easy dispensing and measuring. If you don’t have this emulsifier, I’ve listed other options in the how-to section below.

If you’re hesitant to buy another ingredient, rest assured that emulsifiers are easy to use—just mix with your essential oils before adding the rest of the ingredients. Plus, any leftover emulsifier can be used in other DIY projects like essential oil deodorant or room sprays.

If you decide not to use an emulsifier, remember to shake your pillow spray well before each use. However, this can result in uneven distribution of the oils, which isn’t ideal.

ESSENTIAL OILS

It’s important to avoid using products with synthetic fragrances, especially in pillow sprays, as they often contain chemicals that can be irritating and lead to headaches—something you definitely don’t want when trying to fall asleep!

Unlike artificial fragrances, essential oils like lavender contain natural aromatic compounds that offer real benefits. Lavender, in particular, is known for its calming, sleep-inducing properties, making it an ideal choice for your DIY pillow spray.

While lavender is one of the best essential oils for relaxation, it’s far from the only option. This homemade pillow spray recipe includes three different essential oil blends to promote sleep, which you can customize based on your preferences.

HYDROSOL

If you’d prefer a pillow spray without essential oils, you can use lavender hydrosol, the floral water left over from the essential oil distillation process. Simply spritz lavender hydrosol directly onto your bedding—there’s no need to mix it with anything else!

While hydrosols are not as potent as essential oils, they retain many of their benefits. Their light fragrance makes them a great option for those who are sensitive to stronger scents or for use with children.

ESSENTIAL OIL BLENDS FOR PILLOW SPRAY

Here are three calming essential oil blends for your lavender sleep spray. Each blend has its own unique fragrance profile and benefits:

Sleepytime Lavender:

  • 12 drops Sleepy essential oil blend
  • OR 5 drops lavender essential oil
  • 3 drops ho wood essential oil
  • 2 drops bergamot essential oil
  • 2 drops grapefruit essential oil

Lavender Vanilla:

  • 5 drops lavender essential oil
  • 5 drops vanilla essential oil
  • 2 drops patchouli essential oil (or copaiba essential oil)

Lavender Chamomile:

  • 5 drops lavender essential oil
  • 4 drops chamomile essential oil
  • 4 drops amyris essential oil

Feel free to experiment with these blends to find the perfect scent that helps you unwind and relax before bed!

SLEEPTIME LAVENDER

The Sleepy blend is a relaxing mix of lavender, ho wood, grapefruit, and bergamot essential oils that I received in my Simply Earth Essential Oil Recipe Box. I was curious about the choice of citrus oils in this blend, since citrus scents are typically invigorating. I often use them in energizing products like “wake me up” shower steamers and roll-ons.

However, I was pleasantly surprised by this blend. The citrus notes mellow out the lavender, which can sometimes be overpowering or too floral. This makes it a great option for those who want the benefits of lavender essential oil for sleep but find its scent too strong or intense.

Ho wood adds a grounding, earthy tone to the blend, while also acting as a fixative oil, which helps the fragrance last longer on your pillow. Sleepy comes pre-bottled as a blend, so it’s easier and more affordable than buying each individual oil to recreate it on your own.

LAVENDER VANILLA

Lavender essential oil is already an effective natural sleep aid, but when paired with vanilla oleoresin, it creates a calming blend that smells like a sweet dessert. Vanilla is also known for its relaxing properties, making this combination a perfect bedtime scent. The warm, comforting aroma of lavender and vanilla together can help you unwind and drift off to sleep with ease. This blend not only promotes relaxation but also creates a cozy, indulgent experience.

LAVENDER VANILLA WITH PATCHOULI

I also added a couple of drops of patchouli to my lavender vanilla pillow mist. Patchouli is one of those scents that people either love or hate, but it has powerful aromatherapeutic properties that can help reduce anxiety. Plus, it’s the most well-known fixative essential oil, meaning it helps your pillow spray’s fragrance last throughout the night.

That said, I know not everyone is fond of patchouli’s distinct aroma. If you’re one of those who aren’t keen on it, you can easily swap it for copaiba oil, which also has calming properties. Copaiba has a sweet, slightly spicy scent that pairs beautifully with lavender and vanilla. Additionally, if you’re on a budget, you can choose a more affordable vanilla blend instead of pure vanilla essential oil.

LAVENDER CHAMOMILE

This Lavender Chamomile blend combines floral lavender, herbal chamomile, and sweet amyris for a pillow spray recipe that smells just like a calming cup of lavender chamomile tea. Chamomile is well-known for its relaxing properties, which is why chamomile tea is such a classic bedtime drink.

Chamomile essential oil also carries these sedative effects, which help promote relaxation and reduce insomnia.

The addition of amyris adds a rich, vanilla-like aroma to the blend. While amyris may not be as extensively studied as lavender oil for its sleep benefits, it’s certainly linked to relaxation. I personally find its fragrance to be deeply calming and peaceful.

If you prefer a sweeter-scented spray, especially for children, you can replace amyris with benzoin oil, which has a similar soothing effect and a lovely fragrance that’s more universally liked.

DIY Pillow Spray Recipe

INGREDIENTS

  • 12 drops lavender essential oil blend (choose from the blends above)
  • 36 drops natural liquid emulsifier (options below)
  • 1/4 cup vodka, high-proof alcohol, or witch hazel

EQUIMENT

  • 2oz glass spray bottle
  • Small funnel
  • Glass pipette for measuring

HOW TO MAKE ESSENTIAL OIL SLEEP SPRAY

  • Sanitize: Start by cleaning and sanitizing your spray bottle and all equipment to ensure the spray stays fresh.
  • Add Essential Oils: Using a glass pipette, measure and add your chosen sleep essential oil blend to the glass spray bottle.
    • Add Emulsifier: Using a glass pipette, drop the liquid emulsifier into the bottle, one drop at a time. Pause occasionally to swirl the mixture gently, ensuring the emulsifier blends well with the essential oils.
    • Shake and Mix: Once you’ve added the emulsifier, securely replace the nozzle of your spray bottle and shake it gently to ensure the solution is thoroughly mixed.
    • Add Alcohol or Witch Hazel: Using a funnel, pour your chosen liquid base (vodka, high-proof alcohol, or witch hazel) into the bottle to fill the rest of the container. Leave a little space at the top to allow for shaking.
      • Final Shake: Affix the spray nozzle to your bottle and shake well to ensure everything is fully combined. Your DIY sleep spray is now ready to use! Spritz it onto your pillow or bedding before bedtime for a calming, restful night’s sleep.

      Natural Emulsifiers for Essential Oil Sprays

      Here are some natural solubilizers and liquid emulsifiers you can use in your pillow spray recipe. Choose the one that’s most accessible to you, as availability may vary depending on location:

      • Caprylyl/Capryl Glucoside
      • Emulsium (available in Canada only)
      • CreamMaker FLUID (available in Canada or USA)
      • Polyglyceryl Oleate
      • Poly Suga Mulse D9

      How to Use Your Pillow Mist for Sleep

      Here are a few ways you can incorporate your calming pillow mist into your bedtime routine:

      Spritz on Your Pillow: The most common way to use your spray is to dispense 1-3 sprays directly onto your pillow before you sleep. This will help infuse your bedding with a relaxing fragrance as you drift off.

      Spray on Your Sheets: You can also use your pillow spray as a homemade linen spray. Spritz it onto your sheets, duvet, or blankets to imbue your entire bed with the calming aroma.

      Room Spray: For a broader relaxing effect, use the spray as a calming room mist. This is a great way to enjoy the benefits of aromatherapy in your space, even if you don’t have a diffuser. Simply spritz around the room for a peaceful atmosphere.

        Important Tip: Keep in mind that darker essential oils like vanilla and chamomile can stain light-colored fabrics. To avoid any potential damage, always perform a patch test in an inconspicuous area of your fabric before using your pillow spray more widely.

        Additionally, be cautious when using your sleep spray on delicate fabrics like silk. While I personally use a 30 momme silk pillowcase with no issues, it’s always a good idea to test it first on a small area to ensure it doesn’t cause any staining or damage.

        Sweet dreams!

        CONCLUSION

        Making your own DIY pillow spray is an easy and effective way to enhance your sleep routine with the calming power of essential oils. With just a few simple ingredients like essential oils, a natural emulsifier, and a liquid base, you can create a customized sleep spray that promotes relaxation and restful slumber. Whether you choose lavender, chamomile, or a blend of oils, the right fragrance can help ease anxiety and prepare your mind for sleep.

        Remember, always perform a patch test to ensure your spray is safe for your fabrics, especially with delicate materials like silk. And, by incorporating your pillow spray into a calming bedtime routine, you’re setting yourself up for sweet dreams and a better night’s rest. Sweet dreams, and enjoy your peaceful slumber!

        HOW TO BREAK THE BAD CYCLE OF BACKTALK

        Backtalk is the bane of every parent’s existence. It makes us feel disrespected and untrustworthy. Because we most often know what’s best for our child, backtalk is that reminder that tells us — you’re still not in complete control. It shows us that our children have desires, struggles, and opinions. At the end of the day, they will still make their choices, and to some parents, that feels scary.

        Before we explore solutions to this issue, let’s first understand why kids backtalk. It’s not always a negative behavior, and rather than reacting harshly, we can view it as an opportunity for a teachable moment.

        Why do kids talk back?

        As parents, it’s easy to forget that our children are individuals with their own thoughts and feelings. While we set the rules in the house, that doesn’t mean we should stifle their ability to express their opinions. Too often, parents use their authority to silence their child’s voice, and this can be harmful. Over time, it can limit their ability to think critically and independently. In a world that needs more free thinkers—people who can reason and question authority when it’s wrong—it’s important to encourage their voices. After all, do we want our children to simply follow the loudest voice, or do we want them to stand up for what’s right?

        The challenge, however, is that kids often backtalk because they don’t yet know how to filter their opinions properly. During their adolescence, their emotional maturity is still developing, which means they tend to argue from a place of selfishness. For example, when you tell them it’s time for bed, their response might be:

        “But I want to stay up later! That’s not fair!”

        Instead of saying,

        “Okay, Mom. You’re right. I should go to bed.”

        But let’s be honest, that level of maturity is unrealistic, right? Kids often don’t understand what they need—they only know what they want. This is where we, as parents, step in. They need guidance on how to express their opinions respectfully, and it’s our job to show them how to do this. Instead of shutting down their ability to question us, we should teach them how to do so in a productive, respectful way. This approach not only helps them navigate their feelings but also models how to express themselves lovingly.

        Backtalk solutions made simple

        So how can parents teach their children that it’s okay to think for themselves, question things to gain a better understanding, and do it in a respectful and kind way? Ultimately, that’s what we want for our kids as they navigate the world. We want them to stand up for what’s right and not follow the crowd blindly.

        But we also want them to respect authority.

        The key here is balance. We want to create an environment where kids feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and questioning what doesn’t make sense to them. But we also want them to understand the importance of being respectful, especially when interacting with authority figures. So how can we do this?

        Let’s look at some responses to backtalk that teach both respect and independent thinking. These responses come from my own experiences and my faith, though I understand that not everyone shares the same perspective. Even so, I believe that the principles can be applied universally. Most parents want their children to be respectful to authority, while also being free thinkers who aren’t afraid to speak up for what’s right. One of my favorite quotes by Malcolm Muggeridge speaks to this balance perfectly:

        Logical responses when your child talks back in a disrespectful way

        “Do you want to try that again in a respectful way?”

        If you’ve already set a respectful tone in your home, this simple question can help your child recognize immediately that their response was disrespectful. I believe in giving kids second chances, especially when they seem to be having a tough day. By asking this, you give them the opportunity to reflect on what they said and find a more respectful way to express themselves. This also allows them to recognize that their feelings are valid, but the way they communicate those feelings matters.

        “I would appreciate you responding kindly first, then you may ask why.”

        The word “obedience” often carries a negative connotation, especially in our culture. We tend to see authority as something oppressive, but in reality, obedience to authority can be good for the soul, especially when that authority has our best interests in mind. In our home, we believe in God, and He is our ultimate authority. As parents, our goal is to be ambassadors of God’s authority, not controlling figures who demand obedience for the sake of control.

        I believe that God has entrusted me with my children, and with that comes a great responsibility to guide them toward what is right. As a parent, I try to make sure that the rules I set and the discipline I enforce are aligned with what is truly good for my children, not just based on my own desires or frustrations. When my child responds with backtalk, I try to approach the situation with a perspective of understanding and compassion, asking myself whether I’m asking something that is truly beneficial for them or if it’s more about what I want in the moment.

        Me: “Hey, go brush your teeth. It’s time to be done watching the movie and get ready for bed.”

        My son: “What?! But I want to finish the movie. There are just 10 minutes left!”

        Me: “I would appreciate you responding kindly first, then you may ask why. Want to try again?”

        My son: “Okay, Mom. Would it be okay if I first finished the movie before I go do that? There’s only a little bit left.”

        If I recognize that my son’s reason is valid, I may reconsider and let him finish the movie. However, if there’s a bigger reason at play, like him having had a bad night’s sleep, I’ll explain that.

        Me: “I’d love to let you finish, but the reality is, you didn’t sleep well last night, so the sooner you get in bed, the better.”

        If his response is still disrespectful or if he continues questioning my reasoning, he knows there will be a consequence. At the end of the day, I’m still the parent. It’s my responsibility to teach him what is right and wrong, and this is where many parents give in. They back off, but when you do that, kids start thinking they’re the ones who make the rules. It’s important to hold firm and ensure they understand that authority is there for their own good.

        Choose your and their momentary discomfort over convenience

        I’ll admit, I’ve been guilty of choosing convenience over discomfort in parenting. Sometimes, it’s just easier to give in, but is that what’s truly best for my kids? No, they need structure. If they were allowed to do whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted, not only would they think life would always go their way, but they’d also learn to treat others with unkindness and disrespect.

        There’s a balance to everything. While we want to extend grace to our children because we love them, sometimes they need a firm hand. Love isn’t just about warm feelings and giving them everything they want. Loving them also means disciplining them so they can learn important life lessons.

        But what is discipline? Discipline isn’t just about correction—it’s about teaching, guiding, and gently pointing your child toward truth. It’s focusing on the heart, not just the behavior, and it’s about connecting with them before correcting them.

        I’m active in a lot of parenting forums, and I came across a thread where a woman asked, “I can’t get my 10-year-old to stop playing video games. It’s all he wants to do all day. What do I do?”

        My first thought was, “Who’s the parent here? Just tell him NO.”

        This is where I would challenge this parent to ask themselves: Is playing video games all day what’s truly best for their son? Is that what he needs, or does he need an authority figure to step in and protect him from his own choices? Ultimately, because children aren’t yet capable of making decisions based on their needs, they tend to make decisions based on their desires. As parents, it’s our job to guide them and protect them from this.

        Create moments with your kids for productive dialogue

        I’ll never forget the conversation I had with my 10-year-old the other day.

        Every now and then, we hold a little family meeting to discuss what’s going well and what could use some improvement—both on our end and the kids’. We also let our son share his thoughts on all of this. When I asked him what he thought was going well in our family, he said, “I’m happy you don’t just let me play video games all the time. I can tell how it makes me feel crabby if I play too much.” In that moment, I realized that even though he gets upset when I ask him to stop playing video games, he understands the benefits of it. It showed me that my authority is not just helpful in the present moment but also in shaping his future.

        Can you imagine how hard his future relationship with a spouse might be if I let him do whatever he wanted, especially with video games? Not only would he face a wake-up call from his wife, but it could negatively impact their relationship due to his lack of self-control. Authority and discipline teach children how to exercise self-control.

        However, if I withheld something he enjoyed because I feared he’d get addicted or it would negatively impact his life, he’d never learn how to enjoy things with balance. Once he left our home, he’d have no guidance on how to manage his interests responsibly.

        Remember, you are the parent.

        Our job as parents is to find this balance. That doesn’t mean we never take video games away when we see unhealthy habits forming; there’s a time and place for that. But we also use things like video games as teachable moments. The same goes for backtalk. We use those instances of disobedience to guide him on the right way to respond, instead of just sending him to his room because he talked back. That would address the behavior, not the heart issue. If we don’t understand and listen to the source—the heart, soul, and mind—we can’t address the symptoms properly.

        The hope is that our responses will eventually turn disrespectful backtalk into productive conversations that benefit everyone. And sometimes, I have to apologize and admit I was wrong! I might have forgotten a promise I made or taken it back, and it’s important for me to own that. These moments only happen if I allow my child to be a free thinker, respectfully ask questions, but always obey first.

        I hope this has been helpful. I know how frustrating it can be to break the cycle of unhealthy and disobedient backtalk. Be patient with your kids! If they’ve been used to responding disrespectfully, it can take time to change.

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        Back-Pocket Phrases for Responding to Backtalk

        “Do you want to try that again in a kind voice?”

        “I’m okay with you questioning me, I’m not okay with how you did it. Try again in a kind voice.”

        “That is my boundary. Next time you want something different, ask in a respectful way please.”

        “That was not a kind response. How do you think you should have responded?

        “I’m going to need a respectful response first, then you may say what you need to say.”

        “I’m totally up for hearing your side of things. Can you try it in a kind voice?”

        “I’m not your enemy and I would love to listen. Why don’t you take a break for a minute and we can revisit this when you feel better.”

        “I need to think about it. Next time you want something different, please ask me in private.”

        “This is a non-negotiation matter. Let’s discuss the “why” after we cool down a bit.”

        “I hear you. Let’s talk about this when we’re both calm so we can solve this together.”

        DIGITAL WELLNESS RESOURCES

        • Bark Premium (Parental Control App): This app helps monitor content on your child’s phone, providing coverage for texts, emails, social media, and more. Use the code WFTBBLOG for an extra month free. It’s a great tool for parents who need more control over what their children access online.
        • The Bark Phone: If you’re looking for a safe phone for your child, this option includes the phone, Bark Premium, and wireless service for $49/month. It allows parents to control which apps and features their child can access, making it suitable for both younger and older kids.
        • Covenant Eyes (Computer Use): A tool for managing content on computers, Covenant Eyes helps filter inappropriate websites and provides screen accountability, ensuring your child stays safe online.
        • Bark Home & VidAngel (TVs, Gaming Consoles, and At-Home Protection)

        Bark Home: This tool helps manage screen time and filter websites on all internet-connected devices in your home, including gaming consoles and TVs.

        VidAngel: Allows you to skip or mute inappropriate content on popular streaming platforms like Netflix and Hulu.

        • Screen Time Checklist Printable: A free downloadable checklist to help manage your child’s screen time, which can be a great tool for parents looking to establish healthy boundaries around technology.

          BOOK & JOURNALING FOR KIDS

          • Parenting Book Recommendations
            A curated list of books to help guide parents on their parenting journey.
          • Kid’s Journals
            Printable journals designed to help kids express their feelings, practice gratitude, and spark creativity. Perfect for children who are starting to write, draw, or color.

          CHORES FOR KIDS

          • Magnetized Chalk Chart for the Fridge: A fun and interactive way for kids to keep track of their chores. This tool helps kids stay on top of their tasks without constant reminders, fostering discipline and follow-through.
          • Chore Chart Printable: A Mandalorian-themed chore chart that’s printable and designed to make chores more fun. It’s a simple way to implement structure and responsibility in your child’s daily routine.

            EMOTIONAL CONNECTIVITY WITH YOUR KIDS

            • Emotional Connection Game
              A game designed to foster open, judgment-free communication between parents and children. It creates a safe space for kids to share their feelings and questions without the fear of consequences. This game helps deepen the emotional bond with your child.
            • Exemption Time
              A period where anything your child shares during the emotional connection game is off-limits for consequences, allowing them to speak freely and feel heard.

            These resources are great for parents seeking to provide structure, safety, and emotional support in their children’s lives. Whether it’s managing screen time, teaching responsibility with chores, or connecting emotionally, you’re offering practical tools for nurturing well-rounded children.

            CONCLUSION

            In conclusion, balancing technology use, emotional connection, and responsibility is key to effective parenting. The resources you’ve shared, such as the Bark Premium app for phone safety, the Bark Phone for controlled smartphone use, and tools like Covenant Eyes for computer monitoring, are invaluable for parents looking to ensure their children stay safe online while respecting healthy boundaries. Along with Bark Home and VidAngel for managing content at home, these tools help create a balanced digital environment for children.

            In addition, journaling, interactive chore charts, and games to foster emotional connection provide parents with practical ways to nurture their child’s growth, responsibility, and emotional well-being. Using tools like the Magnetized Chalk Chart or Mandalorian Chore Chart can help make household tasks more engaging while teaching essential life skills.

            Ultimately, the combination of these resources empowers parents to guide their children with love, structure, and discipline, fostering healthy habits and deeper emotional connections. By being proactive with technology and focusing on emotional well-being, parents can help their children grow into well-rounded, responsible individuals.